и центральная тема собственно
Imago Relationship Therapy is a form of marriage therapy founded by Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Getting The Love You Want: A Guide For Couples, Keeping The Love You Find: A Personal Guide, and Giving The Love That Heals: A Guide For Parents.
IRT claims to integrate and extend western psychological systems, behavioral sciences, and spiritual disciplines into a theory of primary love relationships. Its basic premise is that:
We were born whole and complete.
We became wounded during the early nurturing and socialization stages of development by our primary caretakers (usually inadvertently).
We have a composite image of all the positive and negative traits of our primary caretakers deep in our unconscious mind. This is called the Imago. It is like a blueprint of the one we need to marry someday.
We marry someone who is an Imago match, that is, someone who matches up with the composite image of our primary caretakers. This is important because we marry for the purpose of healing and finishing the unfinished business of childhood. Since our parents are the ones who wounded us, it is only they who can heal us. Not them literally, but a primary love partner who matches their traits.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Imago_Therapyоказалось слово изначально обозначает насекомое
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: an insect in its final, adult, sexually mature, and typically winged state
так что западная бихевиористика может описываться пелевинским "из жизни насекомых"
